When a lot of people decide they want to start an affair, the internet is often the first place they look. It’s fast, convenient and very efficient—especially with so many online dating services out there. These are the sites where many people that are thinking about having an affair turn to, when they want to be discreet about their desire to cheat. Throughout this site we give many tips about how to conduct affairs, and one important advice is to not go out in public if you can manage it. Starting online affairs are ideal for this situation.

What makes online dating services so excellent for this is that they simultaneously allow for confidentiality and secrecy without showing your hand. However, like all things, there is a way to mess this up. There are a few tips you can follow when you start your online affair so you do not end up like many cheating wives, cheating husbands, or cheating boyfriends and girlfriends who have gotten caught red handed.

Handle the Papermail

The first step is the most important step. Without this one, nothing else can flow correctly so your affair is a success. Go over to the Post Office and set up an online PO Box. From now everything that you do and everything that you buy related to your affair will be mailed there. Now whenever you use a hotel, buy something on your credit card, rent a car, take a trip or buy gifts, the bills will go directly to this PO Box. The best part is that email notifies you when any of your mail comes in as well, adding an extra layer of efficiency to your illicit affair.

Credit Cards

With that said, you need to further eliminate proof of purchase and your paper trail. Sign up for a new credit card with your new PO box, and hide it somewhere that won’t be easily discovered by your husband or wife. In other words, do not leave the new credit card in your wallet for them to nonchalantly discover one day. For all intents and purposes, this credit card does not exist, not even for emergencies. It’s only use is for things related to the affair. All your bills will be sent to your PO box and your lover will be none the wiser.

Also, make sure you have your finances under control—if your credit ends up terrible because you weren’t able to pay off the credit card in a timely fashion, it won’t be so bad if you are not married and just cheating on a girlfriend or boyfriend. However, this can cause BIG problems you will have to come up with an explanation for if the joint credit of a married couple is affected. Especially if your family subscribes to an identity theft protection program that lets you know any changes in your credit history. Be careful with the new credit card.

Cell Phones

With that new credit card, the first thing you should buy is a buy a new cell phone. A lot of people have no idea how to use their cell phone to help them cheating, so why risk it? Obviously this is to keep your husband or wife from knowing that you are taking calls from someone else. The other benefit of a new cell phone is that it will keep your new partner from having access to home numbers that boyfriend or girlfriend might have access to as well. This phone should never be on unless you are checking messages so you can talk to your lovers without worrying about them having your home, office or “real” cell phone number.

Also, I personally recommend getting a pre paid phone, or a pay as you go phone because they do not require you keep a paper trail of bills, you a credit check is not necessary, and lastly they are immune to most sim card tracing technology that can retrieve deleted text messages, numbers and even record some conversations. Just make sure you have a damn good reason for having a second phone that you did not tell your husband or wife about in case it is ever found. Obviously you should keep it hidden—somewhere like your car or office is appropriate. However, this really should not be an issue because for the most part you will be using a computer to keep contact with anyone you meet online. Make sure it is not your home computer though, otherwise you’ll have a whole world of problems on your hand should they decide to use any keystroke logger programs.

If you follow these simple tips, you greatly reduce your chances of getting caught having an online affair.