2. Her levels of self-confidence

The final characteristic deals with you (the man) and not so much her anymore. When it comes to assessing the likelihood of her cheating on you, this is single most important characteristic. If she is insecure or lacks self-confidence it can:

-Make her mind weak and easily swayed
-Can make her treat you with little respect
-Give her a cynical disposition about the world that makes her think she cheat so she is never hurt
-Make her constantly need to gain approval from other men by flirting with them constantly (and will lead to other things)

Do not underestimate how a girl’s self-confidence can affect her decisions, even when she means for the best. The need for approval is one of the highest drives a human has, and if she is seriously lacking in that department, then she is willing to behave any numbers of ways to make herself feel as if she approved of and attractive. This will spell disaster for your relationship, and I find that a lack of confidence is the most important indicator of whether she’ll cheat on you in both the short and long term. And the worst part is despite what we think, there is nothing you can to boost her self-confidence although it appears that way. The Void Cheater is a perfect example of what a lack of self-confidence can do to a woman in a relationship. Think your girlfriend’s or wife’s self confidence is an issue? Ask yourself the following the questions:

How happy does she seem? (Confidence in oneself self and place in the world correlates to happiness because of lack of worry)

How many decisions does she make in her everyday life? (These range from the subtle everyday ones, to the larger ones. The more decisions a person is used to making, the more confident they become. Lack of control, lack of decision making will lead her to be less confident)

Why does she dress a certain way? (It’s not so important what she wears as why she does. Some girls like to dress revealing, others dress conservative. If she is remarkably uncomfortable so dresses down to hide her body, or dresses revealing to get constant approval and attention, then you might have a problem on your hands. )

1. How much value do you have to her as a man?

This last trait I consider to be the most important because it’s one that you can control. Her confidence levels, her belief structure, how flirty she is or any of the things I have previously mentioned you cannot influence. However, you can control your life, how you live it, and how you interact with her.

I find that lots of girls will cheat on their boyfriends because they are not satisfying them. That satisfaction is across all spectrums. It could be physically, emotionally, mentally or even socially or financially. Maintaining a relationship is tough work, especially when you consider that you need to make sure you simultaneously are satisfying or engaging your woman on all fronts so she continues to see value in you as her best choice. Sad as it is to realize, once you no longer satisfy her on the levels most important to her, then she will start to think about other people that might but due to emotional investments, probably will not just leave you. She just might find someone to enjoy without your knowledge.

It’s not as complicated as it seems to constantly engage your woman on all the levels she needs to feel satisfied. Just pay attention to what she enjoys and what makes her excited and really show interest in those things. To make sure she constantly sees value in you, make sure you are living with ambition and working to your fullest in whatever field you are in but never neglect her. Many empty beds have been filled in the absence of workaholics. Lastly, treat her well but never let her walk all over you or supplicate her. To make sure that you are living as a man that his woman will value and see no others as better options, ask yourself the following questions:

What do my woman and I share as activities that we really enjoy? (If you guys already have some things that you do together that you really enjoy on a regular basis, then you are probably already engaging her in multiple ways.)

How is your sex life? (This is, surprisingly enough, a big sticking point for some guys because if you’re good or bad you won’t really know it because she probably won’t come right out and tell you that you suck. Instead, rely on being objective about your performance and how well you respond to her.)

What have I done to better my career or myself in the past year? (If you have become stagnant in one of the most important areas of your life, then chances are the rest of your life is suffering as well. You might not be exciting or interesting enough to her anymore, nor do you appear particularly motivated—someone else will take her in the worst way from you.

There you have it. My own experiences and observations have come together in a super long article. Hopefully this will give some guys heads up and help them keep their girlfriends, or swap out and get new ones if the situation is beyond repair.