Overcoming the challenges of emotional fantasies

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Every woman’s battle is not to compare their husbands to other men. I was in the process of doing that for a number of years. I compared him to my college professor — he wasn’t as intelligent; I compared him to my pastor — he wasn’t as spiritually passionate; I compared him to lots of other men — and in some way or another he didn’t measure up. Continue reading

Internet affairs and fantasies will hurt you

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The moral of this is that you cannot find happiness by indulging in fantasies. People have found through experiences that delusion does not build but destroy happiness. Be advised that no matter how bad your relationship is currently and how unhappy you feel about it, your chances of finding lasting happiness in the form of “someone better” are slim indeed. So it makes more sense to invest more of your time, energy, and emotions into making your current marriage better.
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Have you gone too far with your fantasies?

One woman found herself very attracted to a man at her church. They had never met, but he was the kind of man women notice, and seeing him stirred her romantic imagination. She changed where she sat in church so he wasn’t in her line of vision and avoided places where she might bump into him. Eventually he moved away and she was thankful she had succeeded in never having a conversation with the handsome gentleman. Continue reading

Self-interested behaviour in a relationship

Self-interested behaviour is a problem in most relationships; it is not unique to you. Remember the Taker’s rule?. People are tempted to do whatever makes them happy, even when it makes their spouses or partners unhappy. When people are inconsiderate they don’t feel the pain or suffering their spouse or partner feels. They feel the pleasure gained from engaging in activities that are only in their best interest.
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Making a successful singles connection

If you have serious doubts about the relationship, do not fool yourself into believing that your partner will somehow magically change once you “get married” or “move in together.” If you find yourself hoping that they will become less moody, less stingy, less angry, less jealous, or more loving, you are running a big risk of being disappointed and will most likely be headed towards divorce. If the potential for change is important to you, look for this trait BEFORE you commit yourself to the relationship, not after. Continue reading

Christian women’s pornographic addiction

Loneliness also is the reason Rose, a single mom, turned to porn. She didn’t go looking for it in the beginning. “I was seeking companionship. In chatting with other lonely people struggling in their marriages, I learned of some Internet sites I could visit to make friends and have fun. At first, the sexual talk in these chatrooms seemed harmless and non threatening. My loneliness and craving to feel wanted drew me into relationships I really didn’t want.” Continue reading